So Roxy and I headed to Bakersfield, my home town, for a baby shower. I left town Thursday morning and arrived in time to take a much-needed nap, and then head to dinner with my dad, sis, aunt, uncle, and my sis's BFF. It was so fun! I was able to meet up with my own BFF, Wendy, for coffee on Friday morning, and another very close friend of mine, Susanne, for lunch! What a fantastic day! There is nothing like sharing your deepest thoughts with your BFF's. It is hard for me to be so far away from them, but it was good for me to get to hang with them and catch up!
My sister's BFF is having a baby boy and sis was throwing the shower, which I didn't want to miss! What a beautiful job she did with the shower. My sis is SUPER creative, and the theme was adorable. The shower went off without a hitch and was just beautiful.
I was also able to catch up with an old friend who has been through the adoption process! What a wonderful chat we had. She herself has had some a great deal of health issues and decided it was not in their best interest to carry a child. We have always hit it off wonderfully, not only because she is a great person, but because we always had a good amount in common due to her her own health issues. She shared with me about her own adoption journey, and I so appreciated it!
Though it is incredibly difficult to be around those who are pregnant, or love to complain about how difficult it is to be a pregnant, a parent, or how hard their very healthy/normal life might be, she gave me a renewed sense of hope about what might be....
Our situation has been difficult the past few months...
But, I feel in a way that I cannot continue to worry about "what if's." I spoke with my friend, who has been through this adoption process, about concerns regarding the future...we chatted about the "what if something happens to me in 5 years...in 10 years..." She very directly said "something could happen to anyone in this room who is a mother." It is the way life is. I know this is true. Another friend of mine from Vegas told me the same thing...she has 2 little girls...she said something could easily happen to her tomorrow.
So true.
So, I think that I have decided that I WANT to be a mother....and I feel that we will be good enough parents to make it work. We can deal with things as they come....we can roll with the punches...we can do this.
Of course, this will not happen tomorrow, or maybe not next year...or in the next 2. It can be a long process, but I am wanting to pursue it.
My friend told me today that she really felt that God brought that baby to her...it was meant to be. I feel like, and have always felt like, things happen for a reason...and that things are meant to be. But, I cannot expect a baby or toddler to show up in my lap. It is something I have to initiate. She said the hardest thing is to get the ball rolling...
so...
once we are able...we will get the ball rolling.